Marital Bliss
Marital Bliss?
“young love followed by heavy financial divorce? Is it worth it?”
These days our marital status changes as quick as Robbie William’s ever dying flings. Its not always intentional but our ability in modern times to cope with difficult or inconvenient situations is non-existent. Divorce is as common as sugar on a pancake and its quite sad that at my tender and vunerable age the only honourable couples I could respectfully look up to are dead or characters in classic myths.
Every girl dreams of the day they walk down the aisle to the adoring gaze of their future husband but my dream and possible others is rapidly becoming faded. Although I do think ill get married and find the one im very wary of the meaning ‘love’. In my short life time I have been hurt twice by people I thought I could trust, but things have a way of working themselves out. Whether a couple decide to stay together for sheer convenience or for the face that there are children involved in their ’sick equation’ it still eliminates the theme behind marriage, that is love!
‘I’m divorced’ is such a harsh statement but one we seem to take lightly. 30 years ago it was rarely heard of except in memorable storys of henry the eighth the serial committer. Once a couple married it was usually for life.
Nowadays, on average 22000 couples a year file for divorce in Britain alone, So is this a case of becoming tired and bored of your other half or on a more serious level due to domestic violence, adultery or worse still, the inability to rekindle a burnt out flame? I suppose everyone has their own personal reasons but not half in my opinion are acceptable. Some people later in life regret the way they rushed such a life changing decision, and some don’t look back at all. I’m inexperienced in what I preach but I know enough from what’s around me. Our environment, lifestyles and shockingly job titles often cause us to break the sacred vows we made at matrimony. Many people would not admit to money being the problem in their home because its something we don’t care to think about. If the ‘breadwinner’ of the family suddenly brings home two loaves instead of one it without question changes how we behave, live and judge other people. For a short time life is great but we must remember that money is a materialistic and dangerous thing. It makes us begin to believe that we are better and deserve better but in reality the only difference is money. It seems obvious now that wealth higher’s your station and limits the thing you cannot do but does it bring happiness in all cases?
Things take a turn for the worse when here are children involved and many people stay together because of this. Although it seems sometimes that children are too young to pick up the bad vibes and be affected things are not as they appear. Just because they don’t comment or stop playing and laughing does not mean they haven’t noticed that their ‘mummy and daddy’ don’t love each other anymore. Children are loyal and nieve, they believe what their told and never question it because they don’t know any different. When they get older they re-assess the situation and look at it more sensibly, often they can feel bitter and cheated by their parents.
Most children from a divorced family divorce themselves. This is expected though as every one in three married couples divorce within five years.
Are we as humans incapable of being faithful? Is society today too tempting for our weak hearts?
” To love and to cherish in sickness and in health, until death us do part…”
Leanne Warburton
Liverpool
Age 16
